Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Karadaiya Nombu



Me in madisaar


I thought valentine's day was the most romantic day for couples. And being the eternal romantic that I am, I found this, beats everything!

March 14th (not feb)



I was dressed in red, there was candle light (okay, oil lamp), flowers (jasmine) and gourmet food (Kara and vella adai)


And I said


"Urugada Vennaiyum oradaiyum naan tharuven - orukaalum en kanavar ennai piriyadirukkanum"

I offer you (divine) butter and the rice made out of kaara arisi so bless me for my Husband's long life



Ever since I have gotten married, the pooja room has gained a special significance. And every month brings with a festival with deep meaning and relevance.

this particular festival (Nombu) called Karadayan Nombu especially important to married women.

Wearing Madisaar, I lit the Kuthu Valuku (traditional lamp) and tied the sacred thread.


The story goes that Savithri was the daughter of king Aswapathi who ruled Madradesha. She was married to Sathyavan, son of another king, according to her wish. Despite Naradha’s warning that Sathyavan would die within a year of marriage, Savithri married him. But as a devout wife, she started worshipping Goddess Gowri to protect her mangalyam, - that is, to change the fate and give her husband a long life. On the first day of Panguni, the following year, fate snatched away Sathyavan suddenly. When Yama appeared to take away the life of Sathyavan, Savithri did not give up easily. She argued with Yama, and regained the life of her spouse and lived happily ever after.


On this day, two special dishes are made and offered to the Lord. One is a salt savoury signifying Lord Siva and the other one is a sweet signifying Goddess Shakti.(Karadais and vella adais are specially made for the occasion with rice flour,jaggery and Kaaramani - a red coloured dry beans). The adais are then placed on the plantain leaves along with 'Vennai' (butter). Here is my Mother-in-law's recipe!



Kara and vella adai



Karadai


Kara Mani - red coloured beans- 1 cup steamed

salt, soaked rice (half hour), grated coconut


Dry fry till they are rice red colour, cool, powder the rice, season it with mustard, urad dal, chili, coriander leaf, aseofoteda

and boil it with water add grated coconut 1 cup. add overnight soaked Karamani. Add rice flour once it stars boiling, stir for ten minutes and keep aside when it gets a thick upma like texture. steam it in idly stand for 15 minutes


Velladai


jaggery 1 1/2 cup,

equal water

karamani half cup

boil water, pinch cardamom,

grated coconut 1 cup

1 spoon ghee


In boiling water add jaggery, when Jaggery melts add rice powder.stir till it gets a thick upma like texture

Steam both (kara and vella adai) in the cooker for 15-20 mins simultaneously.



Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Randomly 'Ever after'



In fairy tales, wedding end with happily ever after.
After my whirlwind wedding where everything from scratch
happened in four m ' onths flat, i have nothing much to say.

they say everything's supposed to change after marriage.
Many things do, and many things dont. But its all for the good.
I suppose, anyway, barely a month into it, I dont think I am
expert enough to comment about it. But then even after 50 years into it
i doubt if I ever will be!

But its interesting.
I though I had it all figured out, getting married has directly resulted
in ruthlessly shattering all my concepts.

In short I really dont have anything to say, so I force meaningless
random sentences to fill in the spaces.

In many ways I have realized that marriage directly cuts out
the meaningless randomness in life that we become so accustomed,
which sometimes is a little tough to digest!

And for a marriage to take place itself, a million random things
have to fall in place.

Than one day, when:
kids star calling you 'Aunty',
you stop worrying about you weight (no wonder women bloat after marriage),
you start believing in weird superstitions,
words like 'saving' and 'planning' enters your vocabulary,
you start taking neighborhood gossip seriously

its starts sinking in that you're actually married.
But I guess at the end of the day, its still a series of random events that weirdly adds up to to 'ever after'!